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7 Weeks Postpartum

I can’t think of a ton of new things to say at this point so I’ll make a bulleted list.

  • Teddy is doing great: He sleeps well (eats at 10:30, sleeps until 5 or 6, eats then sleeps until around 8), eats quickly (6 and 4 minutes a side, usually), is gaining weight (11 lbs last time we checked and has the dimples and rolls to prove it), is fairly easy going, tolerates the car seat, likes being worn and snuggled. We’re trying to figure out how to take care of his super dry skin, cradle cap, and stuffy nose but those are all relatively minor issues. He’s figuring out breastfeeding without the shield (we’ve gone 3 days without it at this point) so I may be able to pack them away soon.
  • Ben loves Teddy: I’m sure part of it is the novelty of having a baby around but Ben loves to see Teddy in the morning, sit with us when I feed him, share toys, and give hugs and kisses. Ben likes to wear his baby doll in a kid-sized doll carrier (similar to this one). I’ve seen him give his baby kisses like I kiss Teddy’s head when I’m wearing our real baby. At this point, we’re not seeing a lot of jealousy or rivalry yet.
  • We love him: Duh. I was a little concerned that I wouldn’t love him as much as Ben or in my newborn fog, I’d love Ben less somehow but that definitely hasn’t happened. Our family feels so right at this point. I’m sure we’ll feel the need to add more someday but my heart is full.
  • I’m figuring out how to balance everything: Hardest part of having more than one kid, for sure! B was gone for work for two weeks starting when Teddy was 3 weeks old so I got a crash course on blending the boys’ schedules alone. I can handle wake ups overnight and getting both boys up in the morning. We don’t get going very quickly but that’s a bonus that our lifestyle provides. I don’t have the guaranteed down time during naps that I used to have and that’s a struggle. I feel bad that Teddy doesn’t get the snuggle time that Ben did as an infant but there’s little I can do about that. I try to have dedicated time for each of the boys during the day and make sure Ben knows that I’m not ignoring him when I’m feeding or changing Teddy. Ben is pretty happy with “taking turns” getting diaper changes and seems to understand that I can’t do everything when I feed Teddy but can play dishes one handed or read books.
  • The house is back under control: I’ve kept up with dishes and laundry this week (yes, we’re still cloth diapering both boys!) and have made homemade meals 4 of the 5 nights so far (last night was leftovers so it doesn’t count). Thanksgiving and Christmas parties will disrupt our new routine but I think we’ll survive.
  • It’s snowed for the last 4 days and I’m already tired of it! It’s the snowiest November on record at over 28 inches of snow! B left the house once to clear snow at the old house and I ran out to two stores and the gas station between storms on Wednesday so we’d have food and snowblower gas to last us a few weeks. Other than that, we’ve watched Frozen a bunch (Ben calls it “leck i’ go”), played hide and seek, read lots of books, colored, and stayed warm inside the house.
  • My postpartum check up was canceled this week because of the weather and because Ben was running a fever on Monday. Turns out it isn’t anything contagious, just his two year molars finally deciding to show up. I haven’t lost a ton of weight yet (still about 20 of 50 lbs) but keep reminding myself that it will come off eventually. It isn’t the weight that bothers me the most though; it’s the loose stomach skin that hangs over waistbands. That will tighten up eventually, right?
  • B started a new part time job on Monday working for a friend helping develop new processes and efficiencies for the company (consists of two recently merged companies) and coding sites for big name clients. Those are two of his favorite things so he’s pretty happy with it. It’s weird that B has set work hours for the first time in 4 months but I’m sure he’s getting more work done because of it. I get to spend more time with him in the evening too, which is great.
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Went to an indoor water park and got lots of time to snuggle Teddy while B and Ben swam

 

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Ben and I went on a date to the mall and rode the carousel and ate chicken nuggets and french fries

 

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Big brother is starting to squish little brother pretty early on

 

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So much love on this couch!

 

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Baby smiles!

 

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Squirrel pose

 

 

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Me and Ben wearing our babies

 

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A Prayer for my Boobs

I am still struggling with breastfeeding Teddy almost a month into this relationship. I don’t think his latch is everything it should be but it works because of the nipple shield. I haven’t been able to get him to latch without the shield at all; he simply looks at me like I’m crazy. I’ve been battling double mastitis and clogged ducts for over a week and feel downright rotten about every other day. I’m on day 3 of antibiotics and definitely have had a new clog develop in the last few hours. Letdown brings sharp pain that is only just bearable.

I know I don’t want to quit though. There has to be a way to fix all these issues but when I’ve been solo parenting for a week (B had been in San Francisco for a work conference since last Thursday), I don’t have the energy or time to devote to getting better because there’s always a child that needs something. B leaves again for another work trip on Sunday so I’m hoping to get as much rest as possible between when he gets home tomorrow and Sunday morning.

If you’re the praying type, I need help getting through the next week and a healing touch.