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A Day in the Life: Uncomfortably Overdue Edition

1:00 am: Ben had woken up at 11 pm and couldn’t fall back asleep without flipping out at B so we tucked him into bed with me and both of us passed out until B came to bed at 1. Ben didn’t want to be moved but it was over quickly. B told me later that Ben was talking in his sleep and tried to climb on top of me to avoid getting picked up.

4:12 am: Wake up to pee, am slightly excited about the 3 hour stretch of sleep until I got back to bed and couldn’t fall back asleep again. It takes at least 30 minutes.

6:20 am: I wake up from a crazy dream to B snoring. I hear noises from Ben’s room already but decide to leave him because maybe he’ll sleep some more?

6:47 am: Ben is definitely awake when I wake back up and check the monitor. Oh well, guess I didn’t need any more sleep either? I lay in bed and check my email and read a few blogs before attempting to sleep for a few more minutes. B is snoring and I’m annoyed. Baby keeps kicking internal organs and I’m uncomfortable.

7:34 am: I must have managed to sleep a little because I wake up to Ben creating chaos in his room. Decide to blog instead of get out of bed. Am too tired to function still.

7:50 am: I can’t tell what Ben has been doing in his room in the monitor so it’s time for me to intervene before his entire dresser is emptied into the floor. Maybe I’ll make us a big breakfast?

8:00 am: Ben had stashed some of his play dishes somewhere in his room and found them this morning. He’s never done that before so that’s why the sounds were so unfamiliar. Ben chatters constantly while I change his diaper and tell him that we’re going to have eggs and toast for breakfast. Eggs and toast are his favorite things to make in his kitchen so he runs into the living room to grab his supplies. He mimics a lot of what I do while making breakfast, right down to “cracking” his wood eggs on the counter.

8:15 am: Ben is settled in his chair with breakfast so I head down the hall to wake up B. He had forgotten we have a family chiro appointment this morning and needs to get up.

8:30 am: After a struggle and bribing Ben with more toast, I’ve successfully gotten Ben to eat most of his eggs. Last week, several other wives of WordPress developers and I started a chat group like our husbands have. There’s no reason why they should get to hang out during the day and we can’t! Two other wives are up while we eat breakfast, one with a 3 month old and one who is slightly less pregnant than I am, so I have adult company. B is finally up and I decide I have enough time to drink a cup of tea before leaving for the appointment.

9:00 am: I jump in the shower as B finishes his. Ben is watching a Baby Einstein show on my laptop from his room so B has enough time to eat breakfast and get Ben changed and dressed while I shower.

9:30 am: We leave for the chiropractor as we’re supposed to be there. Ah well. I’m hugely pregnant and it doesn’t really matter with the way our office runs.

10:00 am: Our whole family is done with adjustments and stretches. The chiro office is in the same parking lot as our local library and Ben has requested we stop. We have time so Ben and B walk to the library to use up some of that inextinguishable toddler energy while I answer a few text messages (friend’s wife wasn’t in labor yesterday, just a false alarm, and a few check-ins from my mom and good friend). Ben goes crazy in the library around so many books so it’s always nice to have B with me when we go. Ben picked out 4 new books (How Do Dinosaurs Say Happy Birthday, Little Pookie, My Dad is the Best Playground, and My First Baby Signs). We drive home with a very happy boy in the back seat.

10:30 am: Time to read books and play with the train station and garage. Since Ben is playing fairly independently, I pull out my computer to get some work done on tasks for the rental house. Of course, as soon as the computer shows up, Ben wants my undivided attention. I need to get this work taken care of today because our tenants lease is officially over so we turn on the Many Adventures of Winnie the Pooh on Netflix in the living room while B continues his work in the family room. Ben splits his attention between the movie and his play dishes. I have a few moderately strong contractions while working on my computer but nothing monumental.

11:45 am: I start thinking about lunch. Ben has been napping poorly for the last few days so we’re trying to bump the beginning of nap forward about 15 minutes to give him more time to wind down and still sleep for 2 hours before waking at 3.

12:15 pm: Ben’s lunch of raisins and a two-slice-of-bread PB&J is ready so he starts eating and I clean up the kitchen a little. B moves to the kitchen table to be close by and I run downstairs to start a load of laundry. This is my last one before I’m completely caught up. Now baby can come, right?

12:30 pm: Ben has either eaten his sandwich or thrown the rest on the floor (B wasn’t watching too closely) so he’s officially done-done with lunch. I take him out and take him for a diaper change before nap. He still hasn’t pooped today so I’m anticipating a short nap due to a dirty diaper. I hate it when that happens!

12:45 pm: After reading through his library books and snuggling for a few minutes, Ben is in bed and fairly quiet. B started making our lunch while I was in with Ben so I get to sit down with a book.

1:00 pm: I can’t see Ben on the monitor so I go to check on him. Crap, he filled his diaper. Back to Baby Brother’s room for another diaper change. At least he did it before nap actually started? It takes about 15 more minutes and some fatherly discipline to get Ben to sleep but he does. Hooray!

1:30 pm: I fold and stuff clean diapers and decide it’s time to try some nipple stimulation to induce contractions. My OB told me that it’s one of the few ways to naturally induce labor (along with sex) that are scientifically based and have proven to work (at least, it works when your body is ready). I spend an hour with Netflix on my computer and using my breast pump one side at a time. I do get some strong contractions but they fizzle out after I stop pumping. I know it has done some good though because I tried for an hour before bed yesterday and I lost more mucus overnight. Even if I don’t go into labor, the contractions are making some progress.

3:00 pm: B is done with the meeting he had with our campus minister in the basement office so we catch up about what is going to happen later today. My mom called and offered to keep Ben overnight after my little sister K’s birthday party that we committed to attending so I could get more sleep tonight than last since there is a chance this will be my last night without a newborn. Three cheers for Grammy! I have no problem taking her up on that offer and while folding the (now dry) clean laundry, I set aside PJs and clothes for Ben.

4:30 pm: We decided to let Ben sleep as long as he wanted this afternoon but since we need to leave in 15 minutes or less, it is time to get him up. I also need to finish packing his overnight bag and gathering the rest of our essentials just in case I go into labor while we’re at the birthday party.

5:15 – 9:00 pm: Partying with my family! All but one of my siblings are here (she has a 6-9 pm college class) and we’re finally old enough to enjoy time together without fighting. Ben has fun playing with the special toys he only has at Grammy and Papa’s house. He eats close to nothing for dinner but mom reassures me that we all went through a phase around the same age where we didn’t want to eat anything and encourages me to stick with the basic rules like “no dessert if you don’t eat dinner” and “mom is not a short order cook.” B gives Ben a bath and we put him to bed, eat cake, and go home sans child. I’ve had a few contractions throughout the evening but no labor yet.

9:30 pm: Home again and I take care of the rest of Ben’s clean laundry, get ready for bed, noodle around on my phone for a while. I decide I’m too tired to try using the breast pump again today so I put it off until tomorrow morning.

10:30 pm: B has come in to pray, we coordinate schedule for tomorrow, and I turn off the lights. Goodnight! Hopefully I’ll sleep like a rock tonight.

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A Day in the Life at 21 Months

I’ve been meaning to write a “day in the life” post for 1 Benny-sized kid since he turned 18 months almost 3 months ago but haven’t found the time. I think that is probably a good illustration of what life with an active toddler is like!

7:45 am: Ben wakes up
He usually wakes up between 6:45 and 8 without any real pattern of why he sleeps later some days. I’ve been awake since 7:15 but enjoying some quiet time in bed before getting up. Ben plays quietly in his bed for about 15 minutes before telling me that he’s ready to get up.

8:00 am: Diaper change and breakfast
When I get Ben up, he tells me he wants to see the kitties, have cereal, and watch a show. I can handle that! I have a snack cup all ready to go with cereal (his preferred breakfast) and he looks at all his DVD cases before picking out Baby Beethoven. He doesn’t really sit down and eat so I know we’ll have to have a healthy snack before I shower.

9:15 am: B is home, I clean kitchen, Ben snacks
By now Ben has had two short shows and still hasn’t stopped moving long enough to eat. B had a breakfast meeting but is home again. The whole family goes into the kitchen to work, eat, and clean. Ben requests apples, “no no,” which is his name for yogurt, and cereal. He’s getting better at feeding himself greek style yogurt because its thick enough to stay on the spoon and he likes to practice often. He gets half a container of black cherry greek yogurt, half an apple cut into bite size pieces, and some of his breakfast cereal. Now that he’s discovered that some foods can be dipped, everything that might be dipped into something else is. While he is spooning and dipping yogurt and getting it mostly in his mouth, B works at the kitchen table and I empty the dishwasher, take care of the random toys and other things that have gotten left on the counter, and handwash dishes from last night.

9:45 am: Ben is done, I can shower now
Ben’s yogurt is gone so I take away his slimy dishes and wash his hands and face. Inevitably, I miss some yogurt that I’ll clean off later. That stuff hides from me! I tell Ben that I need to take a shower and he grabs a few toys and runs down the hall to his room. He knows that mommy shower time means that he gets quiet time in his room with books and toys in bed. It’s the only time during the day outside of naps and night that he’s allowed to have a pacifier so he’s generally more than willing to play by himself in his crib while I shower. I finish the rest of his container of yogurt, grab some clothes, and shower.

10:45 am: Planning and playing
I plan our errands for the day (bringing cash to the bank to deposit and getting an oil change) while Ben wanders the house. Some young newlyweds that recently graduated from our campus ministry have been struggling financially while the husband finds a full time job so he’s been doing yard work and minor repairs at our house when we have the cash to employ him. He was over this morning and Ben follows him around the house and loves to watch him work (today it was cutting up branches from a pine tree, caulking the front door prior to painting, and cleaning out a garden bed).

11:10 am: Errands
Ben and I take off in the car. The change oil light was on so we make that the top priority for the morning. Ben has a CD of kids singing Bible songs that he LOVES to listen to and requests that I turn it on when we get in the car. Surprisingly, he makes it through the oil change with a few car toys and his music turned on. He’s starting to be able to sing along, which melts my mommy heart every time. A quick stop at the bank to deposit the cash B’s mom gave us for her new iPad last week and we’re headed home again.

Noon: Lunch!
Ben is whiney and naughty so we know he’s getting ready for a nap. He gets much naughtier the more tired he is. To prove that to us, he is put on time out twice while I’m making lunch for doing things he knows full well are not allowed (playing with daddy’s laptop and touching the knobs on the stove). Eventually I finish making his black bean quesadilla and green beans and my leftover cheese stuffed tortelini with vodka sauce. I usually eat at the beginning of his nap but because I have an OB appointment today, I eat with Ben. Ben insists we stop to pray about 3 times during the course of the meal.

12:30 pm: Appointment
I leave Ben with B and take off to my appointment on the other side of town. I get a call halfway there that the doctor was called out for a delivery but decide to go in anyway. I only have 3 weeks until the upper limit to do the 2nd tri gestational diabetes testing so I need to get the glucose fluid and and curious about my weight gain. I see the nurse, find out that I gained more than 2 lbs per week for the last 5 weeks, schedule the GD test at 28 weeks exactly and leave for home. B reports that Ben dropped like a rock when he was put into his bed for a nap. Surprise!

1:15 pm: Home and nap productivity
I tell B about my appointment while he eats his lunch and try to decide what to do during nap time. It’s hot and muggy today so I really don’t want to go outside to work so I settle down to write part of this post (hi!), drink more water, and catch up on emails. I’m hoping to hear from the bank that they’ve finally approved our mortgage for the new house but refuse to get my hopes up since they’ve delayed twice already. I think I’m making smoked sausage, potato, and veggie packets on the grill for dinner so I think about what produce needs to be used up. We signed up for a CSA (community supported agriculture) program that doubles as an after school program and summer employment for several inner city high school students every year. I pick up our produce on Thursdays and so far this season, we’ve had bok choy, spinach, arugula, loads of mixed lettuce, a head of lettuce, radishes, herbs, kale, and scallions. It breaks down to only about $20/week and is a huge time saver for me so I don’t have to spend so much time outside gardening while super pregnant.

3:30 pm: Up and Grouchy
Ben woke up a few times during his nap so that didn’t bode well for the rest of the afternoon. He woke up grouchy so we settled onto the couch to watch Winnie the Pooh. He is about half interested and doesn’t do a very good job listening to me when I ask him to stop 1. climbing onto the kitchen table, 2. messing with B’s work stuff, 3. climbing onto the back of the couch, 4. pulling stuff off the cork board. By dinner I’ve lost track of how many warnings and subsequent timeouts he has been on today. Usually just the threat of “going on time out if you don’t listen to mommy” is sufficient but he’s to far into being naughty to listen today. He keeps begging for apples, cereal, no-no, crackers, etc so I hope B is done with work early enough for me to get dinner on the grill.

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Pooh is a good distraction

5:30 pm: Daddy is “home” and I make dinner
B is done with work and starts the grill so we can eat dinner in about an hour. He and Ben play in the living room while I wash, cut, and stack veggies in tin foil for dinner. We had smoked sausage, potatoes, onion, bok choy, kale, and asparagus. I love this meal because the only dishes I get dirty are a cutting board and one knife. Once the packets are sealed, B puts them on the grill using his new Father’s Day heat resistant glove and I wash what few dishes there are left. Ben has driven me to distraction today so I text a friend who has just gotten back into town after leading a youth group trip out west and we plan to go out after Benny bed time.

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Playing Daddy’s game when he isn’t looking!

6:40 pm: Eat
Dinner is done cooking and smells amazing. Ben loves the smoked sausage (it is basically a hot dog, after all) but takes some convincing to eat the potatoes and green beans. He eats about half of the vegetables on his plate before tossing everything to the floor and telling us he is done. B is a quick eater so he washes Ben up and gets him out of his chair so I can finish my dinner in peace. It’s close enough to bedtime that he brushes Ben’s teeth and takes him to his room to get a diaper change.

7:00 pm: Bed time and Friend time
B reads to Ben and my friend shows up at the house. We wait for B to finish before leaving so I have a few minutes to put away the tornado of toys in the living room. We chat with B for a few minutes and take off. We go to Friday’s for a “drink” for me and a fancy looking strawberry mojito for my friend. We catch up and hit the grocery store kid-free before heading home. I didn’t have a ton on my list but pick up some lotion (I’m almost out), some supplies for packing, and some end-of-the-day discounted sesame bagels for breakfast.

10:30 pm: Sleep
We’re home, I send a big bag of CSA lettuce home with my friend, B and I shut down the house for the day, and go to bed. Good night!

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A Day in the Life, 12 Month Edition

It’s been 6 months since I’ve written a “day in the life” post so it’s definitely time for an update. Ben is almost a completely different person than he was at 6 months!

7:30 AM: After we started sleep training Ben, he learned that he needs to stay in bed until 7 but he usually doesn’t wake up or holler to get out of bed until around 7:30. 6 months ago, I would have given my right arm to be able to sleep to 7:30 on a regular basis. He’s not a perfect sleeper but we are thankful that he sleeps in. I had been up every hour for part of the night between the cats prowling, Ben waking up, and me being worried that Ben was cold (the temp dropped into the 40s at night and Ben’s room is the coldest in the house). B planned on getting up at the same time as Ben this morning anyway so he brought Ben into our room to nurse and then changed his diaper and took him out to the living room to play so I could go back to sleep.

8:30 AM: I couldn’t sleep (story of my life) and kept thinking of all the things I need to get done this week so I got out of bed and snuck toward the living room to check on my boys. B was starting to catch up on work emails and Ben was happily playing on the floor. I heated up oatmeal for Ben and put him in his highchair to eat. We’re getting new carpet for the living room tomorrow so B started moving some of the smaller things (end table, large baskets, etc) into temporary storage. Ben was tired of oatmeal so he had a few cheerios so B and I could move the antique glass cabinet into the family room, where it will be safe from little boys who like to hammer on things.

9:15 AM: I was starving and Ben was antsy to get out of his chair. He went back to his toys to play and I fried an egg for my breakfast. I put on Baby Mozart for Ben so I could eat in peace without him begging for something he wasn’t allowed to eat yet. B showers and heads off to the basement office.

9:45 AM: I’ve caught up on emails, surveys, breakfast, and blogs and Ben’s show is done. As he is crawling around, he tries to stand up by holding onto the ottoman but his hand slips and he bonks his face. His lip is bleeding a little but it doesn’t seem to bother him at all. I always feel awful when he hurts himself but really, there is nothing we can do. He isn’t doing dangerous things, he’s just learning new skills and while he can stand up 98% of the time just fine, once in a while he tips over.

10:15 AM: Nap time for Ben! I changed his diaper (very, very dirty), found his burp cloth and pacifier (or boppy, as it is called in our house), and we cuddle in the chair in his room and read The Napping House. Both of us adults love this book and highly recommend it. I put Ben in his crib, tell him to have a good sleep, and shut the door halfway. He must have been exhausted because he fell asleep in 5 minutes, without throwing out his boppy multiple times. I love when Ben takes a morning nap because it gives me a chance to get moving quickly. I finish cleaning up breakfast and shower. I’ve been meaning to mix up some miracle lotion for the last week but keep forgetting so I made sure to put this at the top of my list today. This stuff really is great, especially during winter for people with chronically dry skin like me. Ben wakes up as I pour the finished lotion into storage containers so I know that I won’t be able to finish cleaning the kitchen like I had hoped.

11:30 AM: Ben quickly nurses (only 5 minutes total this time) and wants to get off my lap to play. We need to run to the dollar store before lunch so I distract him with a toy and change his diaper and get him dressed. We go downstairs to B’s office to let him know where we are headed and tell him I’ll make lunch when we get back.

11:45 AM: At the dollar store, picking up silverware and thank you cards for Ben’s birthday party on Saturday. We didn’t want to throw a huge party but even with just parents, siblings, and closest friends coming, we’re still planning a party for 20 people! Ben is an angel at the store and isn’t at all grumpy even though we’re close to lunch.

12:15 PM: We’re home from the store and I pop Ben into his high chair with his sippy cup while I open and rinse some black beans to make quesadillas for all 3 of us. B has a 1:00 meeting so he decides to eat after the meeting so he can actually relax during his lunch break. This is Ben’s first time trying a quesadilla and he gobbles it down! He makes the sign for water and means it, which is a HUGE break through! He’s really starting to understand why he needs to use signs instead of just mimicking us when we do it.

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Baby’s first quesadilla

1:15 PM: Ben is done eating before me so he goes off to play and I can enjoy the rest of my lunch as well as read a few blog posts. I can hear a toy scraping against furniture and hurry into the living room to figure out what Ben is doing. He took one of his red painted toys and was rubbing it against the green tv cabinet and it left little red scratches everywhere!

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Yikes!

Thankfully, a bleach-free Lysol wipe takes it right off. Ben goes back to destroying the living room or playing, this time with me as an accomplice.

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Reading books is always fun

2:15 PM: B is done with his meeting and ready for lunch and Ben is ready for his afternoon nap (3 hours between naps). I’ve already changed Ben’s diaper (the second nasty one today) so B takes over reading a book and the multiple redirects to teach Ben to go to sleep while I make B’s lunch and clean up the kitchen. It takes Ben longer to fall asleep this time than this morning but it isn’t terrible. I finish making lunch, wash dishes, hang up clean laundry, finish emptying a suitcase that we were done with last week, and sit down for a bit to start this blog post and research pricing for Subway catering for Ben’s party. I tentatively decide what to order and text my choice to B to get his input.

4:00 PM: Ben is awake so I get him up to nurse. He’s fun to nurse now because he knows and understands what it means when I unhook my bra. He gets very excited and tends to start rooting around before I’m uncovered! We play peek-a-boo for a few minutes when he’s done eating before he slides off my lap to read books and poke at the (unplugged) space heater. The sun is finally shining and I got an email from the library that a book I requested had arrived so I ask B if he has time for a walk today. He does so we plan to leave after he is done with his daily 4:30 meeting. We love walk, especially when it means we get new books!

5:15 PM: B is done with his meeting but not done working for the day. He has a side project commitment at 7 so we have to keep our walk short. We walk to the library, pick out 4 new books for Ben and 2 new ones for me. We are so thankful we live within walking distance of a great library! It saves us a ton of money that probably would be spent on books otherwise.

6:00 PM: Ben is ready for dinner and does he ever eat! He eats a half of a cup of chicken noodle soup (minus the broth), 3/4 of a blueberry muffin, and a large piece of cheese. He has blueberry smeared everywhere; I even find some on his ear!

6:30 PM: Ben and I play for a little longer before starting his bedtime routine. Tonight isn’t a bath night so it only takes about 15 minutes.

6:45 PM: B wants to move the tv, tv stand, and armchair out of the living room before his 7:00 meeting starts. I put Ben safely in his crib with toys so we can move things without tripping on him.

6:50 PM: Diaper change, pjs, and more books to read. I enjoy 3 of the new library books but Ben is super tired and ready to sleep. I put Ben in bed and tell him goodnight.

7:00 PM: B is still working so I make myself dinner and sit down for a bit to read. We’re getting new carpet in our living room tomorrow so once B is done with work, we will be moving heavy couches and ripping out old carpet and tons of little staples.

8:15 PM: B is done with work so we start on the living room. It takes much less time to empty the room and rip out the carpet than we thought. I thought we wouldn’t be able to move the old stuff to the garage but it was light enough. After a few hours, carpet is gone and staples are out. B sweeps the subfloor while I go nurse Ben one last time before bed.

10:30 PM: Ben is fed and I am exhausted. I wash up and get in bed. Shortly thereafter, I pass out!

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A Day in the Life, 6 Month Edition

I thought it would be interesting to write a “day in the life” post at 6 months, both for you readers as well as for my reference down the road when I can’t figure out why Ben’s future sibling isn’t sleeping anymore.

5:00 – 6:30 AM: Wake up- Ben’s wake up time varies and I really, really hate 5 AM. If he wakes up at 5 and it’s been more than an hour since he last ate, I’ll snuggle him in bed next to me and feed him again, praying that he drifts off to sleep for at least another hour. He does about 50% of the time. For the other 50%, he is wide awake and wants nothing to do with sleep so I drag myself out of bed. For the sake of this walk through, we’ll pretend he slept “in” until 6:30.

This baby is much sleepier than the one in our room at 6 AM

This baby is much sleepier than the one in our room at 6 AM

Diaper Change: I’ve given up on changing diapers overnight because it wakes him up to where he can’t fall back asleep so the morning diaper change is a top priority. I get rid of the nasty diaper, pop him back in his pjs and we shuffle to the living room.

6:45 – 9:30: Play time- When we get to the living room, Ben is already twisting around and lunging toward his play gym. I set him down, drop my phone off by the couch and go get myself some breakfast (tea and breakfast bar or slimfast-esq shake drink). I check emails, blogs, twitter, news, weather, our bank account, or pay bills on the couch while Ben happily plays by himself on the floor. If the night before was a diaper washing night, I grab the clean diapers from the laundry room and fold/stuff them while Ben plays. He gets tired of this by 7:30 or so and it’s time for a change. Sometimes we snuggle on the couch and read or he watches me do surveys or surf Pinterest and chat. The kid loves the computer screen so this buys me about 15 more minutes of happiness. Other times I’ll throw a blanket on the floor and we’ll tickle wrestle, have tummy time, and play with toys. If Ben woke up really early, I usually can’t make it until his nap time for a nap so I wake B up and he takes a turn playing with Ben while I jump back in bed for another hour of sleep. Sometime before his nap at 9:30 he gets another feeding and a diaper change.

Ben has finally learned to roll and flops all over

Ben has finally learned to roll and flops all over and often gets stuck between the legs of his gym

9:30 – 11:30: Nap time- Naps aren’t always 2 hours but that’s what I hope for every morning. Now that he is napping every 3 hours instead of 1.5 hours, naps have gotten significantly longer. Most are at least 1.5 hours. Morning nap time is my time to write blog posts, clean the kitchen, start laundry, shower, plan out any errands that need to be done during the day, and check on B’s schedule. B works from the basement so we powwow a few times a day to touch base and figure out anything that he might need done but Ben and I generally leave B alone to focus on work. The more we pester him during the day, the later he has to work in the evening and I’m always ready for him to be done before he’s able to quit!

11:30 – 12:30: Errands and Activities- Ben wakes up from his nap, smiling and ready to go. He might need a feeding or a diaper change, depending on when he last had them. I’m showered and dressed and have already figured out if we need to run errands. If we are leaving the house, I’ll grab a quick snack for me and plop Ben in his car seat and carry him out to the car. Pre-lunch is prime grocery getting time so we may be off to Aldi, Meijer or Target, depending on the day. I’m getting hungry and Ben is tired of being in his car seat (can’t sit up in a shopping cart yet) so we go as quickly as we can while still enjoying the novelty of being out of the house.

All bundled up and ready to run errands!

All bundled up and ready to run errands!

12:30 – 1:30: Lunch- I greet B as we walk in the door and give him options for lunch, usually leftovers, quesadillas or sandwiches. Ben goes in his high chair with some toys so I can put away groceries and get lunch ready. We have been giving him pureed baby food at either lunch or dinner but he pretty much hates it. I did some research on baby-led weaning and we really liked what we read. I bought some baby friendly first foods at the store today (banana, avocado, puffs, and graham crackers) so I cut up a banana and give Ben 1/3 of that instead of sitting down with a jar and spoon. There is much less yelling (Ben) and frustration (us) with the banana than with the purees so it looks like we have a new plan. B and I finish our lunch so I clean up the kitchen while Ben plays in the living room until nap time. Ben also nurses again.

Nom, nom, nom banana!

Nom, nom, nom banana!

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Eating a banana in the mesh feeder

2:00 – 3:30: Nap time- Afternoon nap is usually shorter than the morning nap but no less necessary. I try to give myself a few special chores every week like dusting and reorganizing the book shelves, washing the cat beds, or washing and rehemming curtains. Afternoon nap time is a good time to get going on those things. If I am running around the house, I have the monitor clipped onto my pants so I can hear Ben when he wakes up. For some reason, his afternoon sleep is much more disturbed with more wake ups than the morning. I know he isn’t ready to get up when he wakes up crying, trying to find his pacifier. Today I’m reading instead of doing more around the house because I need some rest time too.

3:30 – 5:30/6:00: More play time and dinner prep- Ben wakes up from his nap happy again so he is unwrapped from his swaddle blanket and taken out of his crib. I try to have a dinner plan by afternoon nap so I can do any extra veggie chopping or get meat out to thaw while Ben is sleeping. If the weather is nice, we go for a walk to the library or just around the neighborhood. Winter has been lingering in our neck of the woods so we have only gotten to play outside a few times. Sometimes we go visit my parents (Grammy and Grampy), my grandparents, other friends with babies, or go walk around the mall just to get out of the house. Most of the time, we get another feeding in during this time.

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Sitting in the Bumbo and trying to pull his sock off. Guess who discovered that he has feet?!

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Ben always wants to hold more rings than he has hands

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Staring Contest with Mowgli

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If I need Ben off the floor for vacuuming, he loves to play in his crib

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Yes, he is almost always this happy

5:30/6:00: B “comes home” from work and Ben gets very important daddy play time. B and Ben wrestle, snuggle, play video games, play toys, read books, or just lay on the floor and talk to each other. My heart melts a little every evening! I get to hit the kitchen solo and get dinner ready. My goal is always to have dinner finished simmering, baking, or roasting at 7, right after Ben is in bed.

Reading before bed

Reading before bed

6:30: Bath time- Ben gets a bath about every other day during the week or as often as needed after smearing food in his ears and through his hair. One of us strips the baby and the other gets the bath ready. Since Ben has outgrown his baby bathtub but can’t sit up by himself yet, I’ve gotten into the habit of getting into the tub with him and resting him on my legs while he plays. He LOVES splashing in the bath. The cats have learned to keep their distance because if they sit on the edge of the tub, they will get wet!

Mowgli is always excited to participate in bathtime

Mowgli is always excited to participate in bath time

6:45: After washing Ben and letting him play in the tub for a while, I hand him over to B who dries him off, puts on lotion, a diaper, pjs and a swaddle blanket. I get dressed and ready to feed Ben. B brings Ben to me in his room, I feed him and carry him off to bed.

Ben fell asleep during his bedtime feeding. Today was tiring!

Ben fell asleep during his bedtime feeding. Today was tiring!

7:00 – 8:30/9:00: Dinner and entertainment- B and I sit down to dinner and usually watch an episode of our Netflix tv show of the week. It’s nice to sit and relax together for a while. I pick up the minimum of dinner stuff and stack everything to be washed the next morning. I wash diapers every third evening so if tonight is a diaper washing night, I put the load of dirty diapers in for a rinse cycle (cold rinse, vinegar added) and then wash cycle (laundry soap, heavy soil, presoak, extra rinse on hot). I’m usually exhausted by 9:00 so my goal is to have the diapers done washing between 9:00 and 9:30 so I can hang the covers and throw the inserts into the dryer before bed.

9:30: Bed time- Diapers are done so I can wash up and go to bed. I generally check email, twitter, blogs, and news one more time from bed and make sure my Bible reading is done for the day (I’m reading through an annual reading plan on the YouVersion Bible app). If Ben wakes up fussing, he might earn himself an extra feeding before I fall asleep but we haven’t noticed that he sleeps longer if he gets this feeding so I don’t make a point to wake him up to eat.

Sleepy, snuggly Benny-baby

Sleepy, snuggly Benny-baby

10:00- Lights out, if they aren’t already. B is usually reading in bed so we pray together and I pass out.

Overnight: If I’m lucky, Ben only wakes up twice to eat overnight. If I’m not lucky, he is up hourly. He’s been doing better this week and only waking up between 2:00 and 3:00 and then 2 hours after that first wake up.

Then the whole thing starts over again! Honestly, this typical schedule doesn’t happen very often. We have to adjust naps to go to appointments. We travel somewhere and Ben sleeps in the car. Even the weekend changes things since we like to do things as a family. Ben likes to throw us curveballs so no two days are the same!