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26 weeks

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Baby 3 is about 1 2/3 lbs and 14 inches long. He’s getting to be more active so I’m anticipating another wild child like our Ben.

I’m starting to get tired all the time again but I’m really close to the third trimester. We had a play date with a friend and her daughter on Friday and we reminisced about the miseries of the third trimester that I had forgotten about in the last two years. I’m not looking forward to waking up sore, not sleeping through the night, swollen legs, and other things but I AM looking forward to this baby getting here.

My due date is in 98 days and I’m freaking out a little. We closed on our new house last Friday and are looking at several weeks of painting and cleaning both houses so we can move either just before the 4th of July or just after. I didn’t get any packing done this weekend but we did sell two beds, took a deposit on the living room chairs and table left in the new house, my parents took their stored furniture out of the new house, and we made plans. Ben ran a fever all weekend and wanted to snuggle constantly so packing was out of the question. It’s hard when they don’t understand why they feel miserable!

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New House

Welcome to our new house!

Our New/Old House

Our New/Old House

The bank finally approved our loan on Wednesday afternoon and we closed yesterday (Friday) morning. The closing wasn’t without drama (the house title was held by a trust in my grandma’s and deceased grandpa’s names but apparently you can’t sell a dead trustee’s home, even with one surviving) and we weren’t entirely sure it was going to happen but it did. I’m so glad to be done!

It has a 2 stall garage attached the house via a breezeway, larger kitchen than our current house, small family room with gas log fireplace, built in bookshelves, and desk, one and a half bathrooms (the full bath has pink tile!), three bedrooms all bigger than our current house but with smaller closets, a slightly smaller living room at the front of the house, a rectangular instead of square dining area, a full basement with laundry, woodshop for B (he is thrilled to get to work), unfinished space that will eventually be B’s office, and ample storage space. The biggest draw was the HUGE mostly-fenced backyard that backs up to an elementary school’s playground and the lot’s location on a dead-end street.

B and I spent the night at the house last night, in the tradition of our family. We spent the evening collecting papers from drawers, emptying closets and cabinets, throwing away wire hangers, exploring the garage, pulling down and washing window obscuring curtains (YAY!), and counting lightbulbs. You may think the lightbulb thing is a little strange but there was at least half of all lightbulbs missing from every fixture in the house. The full bathroom was the worst with only one 40 watt bulb in a 4 60-100 watt fixture! Apparently my grandparents were so frugal that they didn’t even like being able to see at night. We’ve hired someone from church to help B paint the bedrooms, full bathroom, and family room so we can move in sooner. We’re also hiring one of our college students to help clean so that process can move along swiftly. My parents are moving the furniture they had stored in the house tomorrow and I’m hoping I can spend a nap time or two there this coming week cleaning and polishing the hardwood floors.

Ben came down with a fever yesterday and has been droopy and sad but doesn’t really show any other symptoms. We’re keeping him drugged so his fever doesn’t spike too high (it’s been 103 unmedicated) and you can hardly tell that he isn’t feeling normal other than his tendency to sit in laps and snuggle for longer than 10 seconds at a time. It looks like we won’t be going to church this weekend since we can’t expose other kids to whatever this is (teething? odd virus? cold?) so maybe we’ll get to go hiking or do another family activity (Like vacuuming the new house! That’s fun, right?!)

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A Day in the Life at 21 Months

I’ve been meaning to write a “day in the life” post for 1 Benny-sized kid since he turned 18 months almost 3 months ago but haven’t found the time. I think that is probably a good illustration of what life with an active toddler is like!

7:45 am: Ben wakes up
He usually wakes up between 6:45 and 8 without any real pattern of why he sleeps later some days. I’ve been awake since 7:15 but enjoying some quiet time in bed before getting up. Ben plays quietly in his bed for about 15 minutes before telling me that he’s ready to get up.

8:00 am: Diaper change and breakfast
When I get Ben up, he tells me he wants to see the kitties, have cereal, and watch a show. I can handle that! I have a snack cup all ready to go with cereal (his preferred breakfast) and he looks at all his DVD cases before picking out Baby Beethoven. He doesn’t really sit down and eat so I know we’ll have to have a healthy snack before I shower.

9:15 am: B is home, I clean kitchen, Ben snacks
By now Ben has had two short shows and still hasn’t stopped moving long enough to eat. B had a breakfast meeting but is home again. The whole family goes into the kitchen to work, eat, and clean. Ben requests apples, “no no,” which is his name for yogurt, and cereal. He’s getting better at feeding himself greek style yogurt because its thick enough to stay on the spoon and he likes to practice often. He gets half a container of black cherry greek yogurt, half an apple cut into bite size pieces, and some of his breakfast cereal. Now that he’s discovered that some foods can be dipped, everything that might be dipped into something else is. While he is spooning and dipping yogurt and getting it mostly in his mouth, B works at the kitchen table and I empty the dishwasher, take care of the random toys and other things that have gotten left on the counter, and handwash dishes from last night.

9:45 am: Ben is done, I can shower now
Ben’s yogurt is gone so I take away his slimy dishes and wash his hands and face. Inevitably, I miss some yogurt that I’ll clean off later. That stuff hides from me! I tell Ben that I need to take a shower and he grabs a few toys and runs down the hall to his room. He knows that mommy shower time means that he gets quiet time in his room with books and toys in bed. It’s the only time during the day outside of naps and night that he’s allowed to have a pacifier so he’s generally more than willing to play by himself in his crib while I shower. I finish the rest of his container of yogurt, grab some clothes, and shower.

10:45 am: Planning and playing
I plan our errands for the day (bringing cash to the bank to deposit and getting an oil change) while Ben wanders the house. Some young newlyweds that recently graduated from our campus ministry have been struggling financially while the husband finds a full time job so he’s been doing yard work and minor repairs at our house when we have the cash to employ him. He was over this morning and Ben follows him around the house and loves to watch him work (today it was cutting up branches from a pine tree, caulking the front door prior to painting, and cleaning out a garden bed).

11:10 am: Errands
Ben and I take off in the car. The change oil light was on so we make that the top priority for the morning. Ben has a CD of kids singing Bible songs that he LOVES to listen to and requests that I turn it on when we get in the car. Surprisingly, he makes it through the oil change with a few car toys and his music turned on. He’s starting to be able to sing along, which melts my mommy heart every time. A quick stop at the bank to deposit the cash B’s mom gave us for her new iPad last week and we’re headed home again.

Noon: Lunch!
Ben is whiney and naughty so we know he’s getting ready for a nap. He gets much naughtier the more tired he is. To prove that to us, he is put on time out twice while I’m making lunch for doing things he knows full well are not allowed (playing with daddy’s laptop and touching the knobs on the stove). Eventually I finish making his black bean quesadilla and green beans and my leftover cheese stuffed tortelini with vodka sauce. I usually eat at the beginning of his nap but because I have an OB appointment today, I eat with Ben. Ben insists we stop to pray about 3 times during the course of the meal.

12:30 pm: Appointment
I leave Ben with B and take off to my appointment on the other side of town. I get a call halfway there that the doctor was called out for a delivery but decide to go in anyway. I only have 3 weeks until the upper limit to do the 2nd tri gestational diabetes testing so I need to get the glucose fluid and and curious about my weight gain. I see the nurse, find out that I gained more than 2 lbs per week for the last 5 weeks, schedule the GD test at 28 weeks exactly and leave for home. B reports that Ben dropped like a rock when he was put into his bed for a nap. Surprise!

1:15 pm: Home and nap productivity
I tell B about my appointment while he eats his lunch and try to decide what to do during nap time. It’s hot and muggy today so I really don’t want to go outside to work so I settle down to write part of this post (hi!), drink more water, and catch up on emails. I’m hoping to hear from the bank that they’ve finally approved our mortgage for the new house but refuse to get my hopes up since they’ve delayed twice already. I think I’m making smoked sausage, potato, and veggie packets on the grill for dinner so I think about what produce needs to be used up. We signed up for a CSA (community supported agriculture) program that doubles as an after school program and summer employment for several inner city high school students every year. I pick up our produce on Thursdays and so far this season, we’ve had bok choy, spinach, arugula, loads of mixed lettuce, a head of lettuce, radishes, herbs, kale, and scallions. It breaks down to only about $20/week and is a huge time saver for me so I don’t have to spend so much time outside gardening while super pregnant.

3:30 pm: Up and Grouchy
Ben woke up a few times during his nap so that didn’t bode well for the rest of the afternoon. He woke up grouchy so we settled onto the couch to watch Winnie the Pooh. He is about half interested and doesn’t do a very good job listening to me when I ask him to stop 1. climbing onto the kitchen table, 2. messing with B’s work stuff, 3. climbing onto the back of the couch, 4. pulling stuff off the cork board. By dinner I’ve lost track of how many warnings and subsequent timeouts he has been on today. Usually just the threat of “going on time out if you don’t listen to mommy” is sufficient but he’s to far into being naughty to listen today. He keeps begging for apples, cereal, no-no, crackers, etc so I hope B is done with work early enough for me to get dinner on the grill.

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Pooh is a good distraction

5:30 pm: Daddy is “home” and I make dinner
B is done with work and starts the grill so we can eat dinner in about an hour. He and Ben play in the living room while I wash, cut, and stack veggies in tin foil for dinner. We had smoked sausage, potatoes, onion, bok choy, kale, and asparagus. I love this meal because the only dishes I get dirty are a cutting board and one knife. Once the packets are sealed, B puts them on the grill using his new Father’s Day heat resistant glove and I wash what few dishes there are left. Ben has driven me to distraction today so I text a friend who has just gotten back into town after leading a youth group trip out west and we plan to go out after Benny bed time.

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Playing Daddy’s game when he isn’t looking!

6:40 pm: Eat
Dinner is done cooking and smells amazing. Ben loves the smoked sausage (it is basically a hot dog, after all) but takes some convincing to eat the potatoes and green beans. He eats about half of the vegetables on his plate before tossing everything to the floor and telling us he is done. B is a quick eater so he washes Ben up and gets him out of his chair so I can finish my dinner in peace. It’s close enough to bedtime that he brushes Ben’s teeth and takes him to his room to get a diaper change.

7:00 pm: Bed time and Friend time
B reads to Ben and my friend shows up at the house. We wait for B to finish before leaving so I have a few minutes to put away the tornado of toys in the living room. We chat with B for a few minutes and take off. We go to Friday’s for a “drink” for me and a fancy looking strawberry mojito for my friend. We catch up and hit the grocery store kid-free before heading home. I didn’t have a ton on my list but pick up some lotion (I’m almost out), some supplies for packing, and some end-of-the-day discounted sesame bagels for breakfast.

10:30 pm: Sleep
We’re home, I send a big bag of CSA lettuce home with my friend, B and I shut down the house for the day, and go to bed. Good night!

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25 weeks

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New Baby is the size of a rutabaga and weighs close to 1.5 lbs at this point. He also seems to have a lot of feet and elbow because I sure am getting poked a ton!

I woke up on my back one morning this week and my left arm and leg were numb. I guess I have to make an effort to sleep on my side from now on (boo!). I was wondering when that point would arrive and now I am tempted to pull my body pillow out of retirement. I also switched out my wedding and engagement rings for a cheap, plain stainless steel band that’s the next size up. I have tiny hands and any fluctuations in weight make it difficult to get my rings off. I’d rather wear something else for a few months than ruin my rings by cutting them off my hand!

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Dressed up for our LAST WEDDING OF THE SPRING on Saturday

I had an OB appointment earlier this afternoon. I’ve gained 12 lbs in the last month! I knew it would be a bunch but 12 surprised me. I have my glucose test in 3 weeks and will definitely make some drastic changes if it comes back positive but until then, I’m going to try my hardest to keep myself from taking seconds of everything! New Baby was wiggly and gave the new staff nurse a hard time when she was trying to find his heartbeat. Every time she got close, he’d kick the wand and wiggle away. He’s taking after his older brother already!

Every week I look back to what I wrote when I hit each weekly milestone with Ben and laugh a little. At 25 weeks last time, we had gotten his room painted and furnished. At 25 weeks this time, we have yet to move into a new house that needs a substantial amount of (cosmetic) work, Ben needs to be moved into a twin bed, we need to finish repairs and cleaning in our current house so it’s ready for renters, and I’m not at all concerned! I’ll pull out my stash of newborn diapers and clothes at some point and we’ll put the cosleeper together when I’m ready. I’m fully convinced (today) that it’s going to be juuuuuust fine.

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24 weeks

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Happy viability week, Baby 3! We would like you to stay where you are for at least 11 more weeks but Mommy and Daddy are relieved to make it to this milestone.

New Baby must have flipped over this past week because I’m suddenly getting kicked and pushed up and over from my belly button instead of only below. I hope that’s true because it means he’s planning on being born at some point and can get himself in position. My belly button is officially out now as well. Of all the things that could really bother me about pregnancy, the popped belly button is at the top. It’s also one of the most ridiculous things that could bother me so I’m trying to get over how weird it looks.

Our family has moved along but not moved on yet from losing our kitty last week. B and I took him to the vet as planned on Wednesday and one of the first things Ben asked for when we walked in the door at home was kitty. I think the other cats are adjusting ok but its strange to be double checking to make sure I haven’t locked Oldest Cat in Ben’s room (happened at least once a day), covering soaking pans in the sink, and cleaning up black fur and cat puke. I haven’t been able to bring myself to make popcorn yet since that was his favorite treat. I’m sure it will come but a week is not enough time.

The oldest of my younger sisters (not K) is experiencing some severe mental illness problems. She has been medicated but my parents (her legal guardians) agreed to let her move out and attempt a semester of college and she stopped taking the meds because no one was there to tell her to do it. She’s been academically expelled and had to move home and brought all sorts of stress along with her boxes of stuff. She cannot live with my parents and other sisters; it really isn’t a healthy daily relationship since she doesn’t get along with my mom. I want to help as much as necessary but can only be so involved; we have our own stress to deal with this summer! When you think about it, prayers for clarity and a good solution are very welcomed!

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23 weeks

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I hit 23 weeks weeks yesterday and the biggest landmark is Baby 3 hitting the 1 lb average weight. I can tell he is getting heavier because I feel a bit slower, heavier, and off-balance than I did a few weeks ago.

We’ve been doing a lot of house research and mental prep and organization to get ready for our move. I heard from the bank last Friday that our application has gone to underwriting and we could be closing in as soon as 3 weeks from now. That doesn’t seem like very much time! Ben is with my mom today so I attempted to get stuff done but got derailed by a really bad vet appointment for our oldest cat.

Oliver has lost weight over the last few months and hasn’t been eating well but I wasn’t expecting the worst news. The vet found a large cancerous mass in his belly and his blood work showed that his kidneys are failing and barely working at all. Needless to say, I was a mess and still burst into tears at random. I took him home for one more night of hanging out and snuggling at home before B and I both go back to the vet with him tomorrow morning. It kills me when I think of Ben calling his name when he wakes up and sees the cat sleeping in his room so I’m trying not to think right now.

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Ben and his Owee Kitty